You set up a date with a girl a few days in advance. The day of your date comes, and you don’t know if you should reach out. Should you confirm your date or not?
Is it OK to Confirm a Date with a Girl?
It is polite and considerate to confirm a date with a girl either the day of the date or the night before. It also saves you the trouble if she wants to cancel or reschedule at the last minute. Confirming a date is a sign of interest and shows that you are still planning to go.
I have always confirmed dates with women for as long as I can remember. This saves a lot of time if anyone has to reschedule or cancel. It is good to check in and see, not to mention it more comfortable if they are feeling uncertain.
When to Confirm a Date?
If you are going on a date, it is good to confirm either the day of the date at least a few hours in advance or the night before the date. Confirming a date is good etiquette, as it puts both parties at ease that the date is still on.
I personally have always confirmed dates on the day of the date. I know some people like to confirm the night before, but I like doing it the day of because anything can come up. I also recommend confirming several hours early. If I have an evening dinner date, I will usually confirm it in the late morning or early afternoon.
Why to Confirm a Date?
Confirming a date is good etiquette. It lets your date know you are still going and lets you know she is still coming as well. This is good for everyone to save time in case someone mixes up the day/time, has to reschedule, or simply changes their mind. Confirming a date is an excellent policy, especially if it is a first date.
I have heard many women say that they prefer a man who confirms dates. I saw a woman discussing this in an online post who said: “The guys who confirm definitely get bonus points and show that they’re considerate.” It is always better to confirm rather than do nothing. It ensures you are all on the same page.
I also think that the most important thing about dating is putting in effort. Confirming the date is a small amount of effort that can go a long way to making a good impression. It is a vital sign of manners and curtesy.
Who Should Confirm a Date
As a man, I almost always initiate confirming the date except when the woman beats me to it. I think the man should take the lead on this and show initiative. Some men are scared to confirm because they think it makes them look bad. This is just your insecurities getting the best of you. Don’t worry about giving the wrong impression.
I saw a video once where a guy said confirming a date shows weakness. I assure you that type of thinking comes from insecurity. I was so surprised by that terrible advice that I wrote another post on why Worrying about showing weakness is a sign of weakness. I think you should stop overthinking and just go with showing manners and not worry about your insecurities.
Confirming Dates
Confirming dates is a great practice, especially when it’s early on in the relationship, like a first or second date. Confirming is a good way to make both people more comfortable. So don’t worry. It is perfectly OK to send a text to confirm that the date is still on. Go out there make a date and don’t forget to confirm it.
